You can't help it if someone or something throws you for a loop. Everyone gets overwhelmed and frustrated. No matter how much you think you can control your feelings, no matter how well adjusted you think you are, no matter how well you like the 12 steps, every now and then something will happen that will upset you. The key is to not let that bird build a nest in your head. People, places, and things cannot control your emotions. They are just emotional triggers. Remember, you make yourself feel a certain way in response to the trigger. You can also quickly change how you respond. It's the bird that is causing you to want to use. If the problem causes resentment, pray for the person who you think is causing the resentment. Substitute resentment with empathy. Remember to ask God that His will be done, not yours. And most importantly, try to help someone who is new to recovery. By getting out of yourself and helping another, you will feel less lonely and you may recognize that your problem is not as bad as the other person's. You may gain perspective. Your attention will be re-focused. By doing what it takes to get the bird off your head, you will avoid procrastination. You will avoid finding yourself saying, "If I get drunk, I won't be able to think about it."
What's a good way to get that bird to fly away? First, using will only feed the bird and help him build his nest in your head. The bird will fly away if you try to recognize your feeling, and then try to change the bad feeling to a positive feeling. To do so, you can start by using this app. You can also ask yourself if the trigger is worth being upset about. You can also try applying the 12 steps to the feeling. First, admit that you are powerless to handle it alone. Then, turn the problem over to a Higher Power. That Higher Power may be a consultation with a sponsor, a therapist, or your God. Maybe take an inventory and see where your own sensitivity may be contributing to the problem. If you can determine what the character sensitivity or issue is, tell someone else. If you can't determine what it is, discuss the situation with someone else. Try to find your defect and not the defect in the person you think is causing the problem. Once you find the defect, turn to your Higher Power to remove it.