Things Don't Change, We Do

Problems will always occur. That is life. That doesn't change. As one problem dissipates, another replaces it. However, we can change how we respond to problems. A recovery program helps us change so we don't turn problems into trouble. Examples of daily PROBLEMS: (a) My neighbor hates my dog. (b) My eyesight weakens. (c) The internet connection fails. How I turn PROBLEMS into TROUBLE: (a) I let my RESENTMENT at my neighbor cause me to yell at my neighbor. (b) I let my STUBBORNESS and DENIAL keep me from getting glasses. (c) I let my ANGER at the internet provider cause me to throw a chair at the router and get drunk. SOLUTION: Changing my responses from resentment to understanding, stubborness to acceptance, and anger to calmness help me solve problems, not create trouble. Recognizing that there will always be problems allows me to take healthy steps to adjust my attitude to become a healthier, happier person. Changing myself before I address external issues keeps me peaceful and sober. HOW do I change my attitude? Examples: (a) I focus on the fact that my neighbor may have been bitten by a dog or is sensitive to my dog barking. This leads to UNDERSTANDING and relieves my bad feelings of resentment.  (b) I get PERSPECTIVE focusing on the fact that at least I have eyes to see. This leads to ACCEPTANCE and relieves my bad feelings of stubborness and denial. (c) I become GRATEFUL that the internet usually works and makes my life more convenient. This leads to CALMNESS by relieving my angry feelings.


To-do:

Today I won't let problems become trouble because I won't let my character defects (like anger, resentment and denial) interfere. If I feel a character defect begin to pop up, I will pause, breathe, and remember that character defects only turn problems into trouble. I will also remember that character defects make me feel bad and that these bad feelings can lead to a relapse. I will try to remember to SIMPLY AND QUICKLY REFOCUS MY THOUGHTS FROM BAD ATTITUDES TO POSITIVE ATTITUDES WHEN CONFRONTED BY A PROBLEM. I will focus on understanding, perspective, and gratitude when confronted with resentful, depressed feelings. I will have perspective that my problems are not worse. I will try to have gratitude for what I have. AND WHEN THINGS SEEM COMPLETELY BEYOND MY ABILITY TO HANDLE, I will have FAILTH that I can FOCUS ON A LOVING FORCE that has helped me endure everything to this moment the proof being I am here reading this. I will have FAITH that this LOVING POWER will not let me DROWN...and that the overwhelming difficulty will pass as they always have. PEACE, SOBRIETY, AND LIGHT!