Practicing alcoholics and addicts tend to try to control everything and everybody, including their addiction. We think if we manipulate situations, our life will improve. But more often than not, our attempts lead only to frustration. The key to sobriety and sanity is to let go of control by letting your Higher Power, Sponsor, trusted friend, therapist, and recovery principles guide your daily actions.
Loosen your need to control people, places, and things and you will notice that your life improves. Instead of controlling, ask for help.