Wants never end. They create more wants. Depending on fulfilling them for joy leads to frustration because they never can be finally fulfilled. A friend could not get a husband and children. Instead of letting this want drive her to insanity, she got to a support meeting, volunteered to help others, and joyously played with her nieces. Living a great program changes sadness into joy, fear into courage, resentment into love.
When I tell myself I won't be happy until I get what I want, today I will automatically do something I have learned to do in recovery like being grateful for what I have.