How to manage your expectations

Been sober for almost 3 months, but have been in AA for 15 years, most time I ever had was 2 years. My problem is I feel like I should make everything right, right now, but I don't have the motivation sometimes to even make the bed. My wife and kids have been through hell with me. Low bottom drunk health wise ( DT's grand mal seizures, intensive care stays). Its so hard when you just beat yourself up for your past, it get you very depressed. I try to act like everything is alright even when it's not, just so my family thinks everything is good. I try to pretend like it not life or death, but they seen me almost die. Just somedays I just want to hide from the world.

Little at a time. If you walk 25 miles into the woods, you have to walk 25 miles out. You are not alone. Have you ever fully worked the 12 steps with your Sponsor?

Yes I have but no burning bush for me. That was kind of discouraging, after you hear some people talk. I have to do it again. I have to find a good sponsor, that's really into the Big Book. I had a great one years ago, a real old timer but he has past on. Maybe it's my brain chemicals changing. Around three months I always get more depression, anxiety and lack of motivation. I broke my knee skiing, 8 weeks ago, sober, but that has given me a chance for more meetings. I haven't been able to work with the knee, I'm a construction worker. I get a lot of my self worth from working. Recently I got a sponsor that I thought was going to be good, but when I called him a few times he wouldn't get back to me for a week. I really have to find one that really into the Big Book, and likes to get together with his sponsees. I'm addicted to being at my house, so a sponsor that likes to do things, like service work, going to meetings together, going out and getting something to eat. Just to help me stay more accountable in the first few months. When I had my 2 years is when I had a sponsor like that. AA has still saved my life because without my sobriety time I have gotten in I would literally be dead. My family is great and really supportive. I guess I'm just going through a faze and have to tough it out. But my sick mind can't heal my sick mind. I basically do it on willpower and that can't work. Thanks for getting back to me.

Pick a sponsor within 7 days. Interview them by saying, "will you work the steps with me daily?" If person answers no, then pick someone else and ask them the same thing. You need to be able to set up a time to talk on phone daily.

Thank you that's some good advice.

I thought about it and I think that was some of the best advice ever given too me. See I always took it as I was being a hindrance to these people, now I understand that these people were given this freely so it's actually up to them to give it back freely as well.. My drinking problem is at the point of death. To bad I couldn't give you me email, you have a really good things to say. Have a great day .Kirk B. Pittsburgh Pa.

Hey Kirk, I usually check this Forum. So keep posting. Remember, you are HELPING whoever you ask to be your Sponsor - even if they can't do it. Let me know how it goes.