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Worried about what others think?

created by: Grateful 1 year, 8 months ago

'Mind reading' is a thinking distortion. An old recovery saying is 'What people think of you is none of your business.' Do you conclude that people are thinking something negative about you even though you don't have any definite proof? If so when? Does this affect your sobriety?

by: Grateful 1 year, 8 months ago

Hi Grateful. I don't think much of what others think of me anymore. OMG while drinking it's all I thought about...I'll show them how much better I am than them. What I've proven to myself is that the more I think of what others are thinking, the more I hurt and aggravate myself. Even after 10 years sobriety, I'm still a work in progress.

by: kkdad 1 year, 8 months ago
replying to kkdad

Thanks Kkdad. I also tend to get when I am concerned about others perception of me. Sobriety frees me from that.

by: Grateful 1 year, 8 months ago

I had a special ability to read other people's minds so I assumed other people could read mine . I had an inability to communicate ,I couldn't effectively verbalise how I felt what I wanted or needed . Due to this I would become resentful towards people that just didn't understand me , I lived in a world based on lies my perception of myself was based on false thoughts of what I thought other people thought of me . I would swap and change characters to try and fit in or please others and always find myself feeling less than or inauthentic a fraud .
Today I don't waste my energy trying to think what others think of me , I have come to the realisation the less I am thinking of myself the better my life is ,underneath the characters ,roles and judgements of my mind (ego ) is the eternal spirit of being . I am you As you are me .

by: AussieDrunk 1 year, 8 months ago
replying to AussieDrunk

Thanks AussieDrunk! I used to think I was on the outside looking in at the cool people, but sober I realize I am on the inside looking out. I'm not trying to be cool, I am cool because I can be myself. I just need to keep doing whats in front of me with kindness and unselfishness. I keep needing to take care of balanced physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual selves.

by: Grateful 1 year, 8 months ago