How do I regain my spouses trust?

TO RYAN: Read SoberTool message: "TIME stands for things i must earn." Bottom line: Not using + changing = sobriety. Sobriety = the only hope you have of getting trust back. IMPORTANT: just not using does not = sobriety. You must change as a person by getting rid of your character flaws. The only way I could get rid of my character flaws was by practicing the 12 steps + lots of daily connectedness with recovering people. I still use the same equation 31 years of sobriety later because I do not want to change back. My spouse had lost trust too. But I got it back and we have been married for 34 years with two wonderful adult children.