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lapsed for the first time in my 14 or so months sober, lost

created by: Recovery123 3 years, 8 months ago



We do NOT shoot our wounded. Get to an AA meeting or other 12 step meeting. Try to help someone new. Ask your sponsor what you should do. This is a disease. All is not lost. Do not pick up a drink or drug.


by: anonymous 3 years, 8 months ago
replying to anonymous

Hello. My thoughts don't be too hard on yourself. Yes a relapse is tough. How would I know ? 17 years of trying to stop and not knowing who to turn to. Buy if I were in your situation I would say to myself I can move forward and need never drink again. But to keep it simple. Each day when I wake up I say just for today I won't drink no matter what. If I do that I never will drink again. Also for me AA was and still is a big help. Keep smiling and your worst day sober has to be better than your best day drunk.


by: Happyandsober 3 years, 8 months ago
replying to anonymous

here we go again. addiction is not a disease. it's a choice. so you relapsed, after 14 months. to me, that's progress, rather than doing it everyday, you managed to do do it once after 14 months. be proud of yourself. but don't do it again. keep your mind busy and don't over think things. it will drive you insane.


by: anonymous 3 years, 8 months ago

Gratitude, not pride, keeps us sober. If you think will power can stop addiction, try using will power on diareah. All addicts need to change their lifestyle, like all diabetics, to arrest addiction which is a chronic progressive fatal disease.


by: Grateful 3 years, 8 months ago

until you realize you can't control your addiction without help, you are lost.


by: anonymous 3 years, 8 months ago

I just want to say that I am so focused on the fact you were 14months sober...that is something I aim for and you have inspired me to think its possible. the fact you slipped, means you can start over with the knowledge you learnt in the 14 months and prepare for another trigger situation if it comes up again. I hope you are doing okay and if it means anything, Im proud of you for admitting your human and slipped and also being 14months sober.


by: CJ 3 years, 8 months ago