I only have to live up to my own standards, not anyone else's. Another person may be a trigger for stress, but I am responsible for the stress. No one else can drive my bus. I don't need to worry about someone else's measurement of me or living up to their expectations. I am grateful to be sober because I am no longer in trouble with society, I only have the issues and challenges that I set for myself.
Today I am going to take it easy and try to do reasonably well in taking care of my responsibilities. It is ok for me to relax and have fun too. Staying loose keeps me from thinking I need to use to relieve stress.