Yes But

"Yes, but…"

Do you find yourself thinking of a reason to disagree as someone else is talking? Do you think of a reason to reject someone's strategy to help you before he is even finished explaining his plan? Lots of addicts hear but don't listen.They think they can control their use because they know why they used.  Lots of addicts hear what others say in offering help, suggestions, and feedback, but respond by saying, "Yes, but…" Many new recovering addicts hear then immediately assert that the suggestions won't work, or that they are against their principles. They reject a program of recovery that has worked for millions of people before they try it. The Big Book quotes Herbert Spencer by stating, "There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance - that principle is contempt prior to investigation."

Remember, it's OK (and necessary) to follow good orderly direction (G.O.D.) without understanding why. Expect not to understand, just have faith and truly listen. This will reduce stress and push you further from a relapse.


Truly listen and follow advice without injecting your own opinion. You don't even have to have an opinion.