"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is walking on earth." – Thich Nhat Hanh
So many addicts try to do the impossible. We have no conception of "what we can't change" so we force things to the point of stress. Working toward goals and attempting to influence others are wonderful only if we do not think that we have to control the outcome or that catastrophe will result if we fail. Learning how to let go and accept situations gracefully is the miracle of walking on earth. This will relieve stress and frustration.
Set a healthy goal and head in that direction living each moment according to the 4 absolutes: Honesty, Purity, Unselfishness, and Love. If you have a tendency to overcontrol, consider doing a personal inventory (Step 4) to discover why. Care about you!