It's gone but I'm not sad, for having had it I am glad.

When I am grieving over having lost something, it's good for me to remember that I was lucky or blessed to have had it. After suffering the loss of a loved one, it's important for me to remember the joys of that relationship. Whatever it is (a dog, a fun vacation, a beloved car, a friend), I need to accept the loss and feel the sadness, but also as quickly as possible substitute the sadness of the loss with gratitude for having had what I have lost. It's even okay for me to remember that many people have not had the blessings that I have had. By changing from sorrow to gratitude, I move further away from depression and from relapse.

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To-do:

To change from sadness to feeling better, remember the good things that you have had even though you have lost it. Remember them with gratitude, not with sorrow.

 

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