What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it's supposed to be

Life always turns out differently than we picture. Two kids, two TV's, two computers, two cars, one loving spouse, all healthy, all good students, all interested in what we like, and all loving of us. (whoops I forgot the picket fence). 

Or your ideal may be different. It doesn't matter. I don't know anybody whose ideal works out.

So don't let that be a reason to drink or drug, be sad, feel worthless, or eat excessively or gamble or anything else. Don't let reality get you depressed.




Practice "acceptance" and "doing the next right thing." It's OK and necessary that things work out differently than you planned. You certainly don't have to feel guilty or ashamed about that.