As distinguished from the Freudian definitions of Superego, Ego, and the Id, Ego for purposes of addiction recovery is a personality characteristic which makes us believe that we can control things we cannot. Ego keeps us in denial that we need any support to stay sober. Ego generates fear, confusion, and stress particularly when we begin to relapse since we cannot control our disease through will power alone. Ego keeps our self image distorted because it relies, for example, on comparisons to others rather that self actualization. As our ego loses balance, our Higher Power (the power which keeps us sober) loses force and our sobriety is threatened. How does our ego become out of whack and too dominant in our lives? A few examples: We try to control our addiction through will power alone. We try to control others. We rely on things to please us. We believe we are less or more than a human being who makes mistakes. We judge others and ourselves. We measure our self worth by money. We become sensitive to others' criticism. We rely on our own instincts, rather than on our Higher Power's guidance. We feel we don't need to do recovery practices because we believe we are cured or too busy. We think we are powerful enough to control our drug use alone. Easing God out causes us to feel frustrated, alone, fearful, impatient, and generally insane.
How do you ease your Higher Power out? Today, be mindful of easing God out. Remember we connect to God by PRACTICING THE PRINCIPLES WHICH KEEP US SOBER. A few of such principles can include helping others, wearing a smile rather than a frown, exercising understanding rather than resentment. remember too that God is defined in recovery as anything you find helpful to stay sober and happy about being sober.